Divorce, the Worst Option

Matthew 19:3-12
Ez 16:1-15, 60,63 / Ps 12

What God has joined together, no human being must separate.
(Matthew 19:6)

God blessed you with a loving wife,
Give your love to her alone,
And you will have a blissful life
With Jesus for your cornerstone.

Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” Jesus replied, “Haven’t you read, that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” … “Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?” Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” The disciples said to him, “If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry.” Jesus replied, “Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.” (Matthew 19:3-12)

Reflection

Under normal circumstances, there can never be any justification for, nor any good that can be said about divorce. The often repeated phrase, “for the sake of the children” is the exact opposite of its consequences. Its disastrous effects on the mental, social, psychological, and spiritual formation of children have such far-reaching implications that studies have shown children from divorced or separated parents have twice the likelihood of undergoing separation or troubled marriages themselves when they enter into this phase of their lives.

Whatever the differences a husband and wife may have, no matter if their personali-ties are poles apart, if they have decided to put Jesus Christ in the center of their lives, their marriage will work, and their union will most assuredly last. To this our couple sharers from Cagayan de Oro testified in one of our breakfast fellowships. The husband comes from a well-known family, wealthy and very refined, while the wife, according to her, from a working-class family which could hardly afford to send all the siblings to college. She had to quit college and work as an airline stewardess to help her parents. Aside from their social and economic disparities, their personalities go in opposite directions: he, with the serious and unassuming mien, and she with the flamboyant and often funny disposition that didn’t quite agree with the decorum of her husband’s family. Relatives and acquaintances said their marriage would not last a few years, but after recently celebrating their 30th wedding anniversary, this loving couple proved all their detractors wrong. Despite all odds, their faith in Jesus has made their marriage a covenant made in heaven.

Divorce or separation is never the logical option when a marriage doesn’t seem to be working out. Working harder in making it work is. With God’s help, love will prevail.

Lord Jesus, you instituted the sacrament of marriage as a manifestation of God’s love for mankind. Grant that we whom You have blessed with its joys may be Your worthy heralds in sharing its Good News of love to other couples. Amen.

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